It's All in a Smile..

Don't you just love it when people smile at you? whether it is a playful smile, or a really 'I'm happy' smile, or an 'I love u' smile, a smile is always beautiful. Right?

Correct, and in my opinion, smiling tends to shape our character and personality as well.

Don't believe me.?

Take a look at this woman:

Classy. Educated. with a clean smile. Sporty, pleasant and a bit playful. I would really like to meet someone like this. Imagine is she doesn't smile a lot. Don't think her face would turn out this way would it?

What do you think of this one?

A childish playful smile. Always seen on kids. Loves to play. Most probably naughty and mischievous. Carefree and pleasant, and curious. I'm sure you would love to see kids smile this way, rather than sulk and frown in the corner.

Well this one is sure to catch your eye:

Wow wow wow. Love is in the air mate. Look at this loving couple. shows that the relationship is going well, and going strong. Been through a couple of rough patches but they worked it out. These guys are in love, and loving it. don't you wish you could see that smile on your girlfriend/ boyfriend everyday??

So don't you see? Apparently smiling is a good way of showing your personality, and in turn it shapes your personality as well, to be a pleasant positive person. It also relieves stress, can tell you that.

But you know, the opposite of a smile can do the same too..

You don't want to turn out like THIS guy. Really, one of the worst people in the world and therefore is one without the least pleasantness in his smile. And I won't bother to talk about his personality or his deeds either. It's a waste of blog space.


A kid who is always angry. Seldom smiles. Always demanding things from his parents. And will always have this expression when not given what he wants.




And did you know? when we frown, not only it affects our personality, but our look as well:

Now here is a sight to behold. Imagine always frowning and getting lines all over your face. Hell, we might as well look like 60 years old when we are still 16.



And try comparing that to this one. Now isn't this guy youthful. No frown lines. No stress marks. Simply a pleasant smile and a youthful look. Wonder what his age is...





And to top it all off, here is a fun fact for ya..

From research, it was found that smiling takes as low as 4 muscles and as much as 15 muscles. Frowning however, could take as much as 100 muscles. Unbelievable? Believe it.

So why oh why friends, do we frown, when we know that it is going to tire us more. Smiling, is the first step to happiness, to being pleasant, to positive thinking, etc2. Frowning, just tires us more, and we can't deny that it is pretty bad to look at isn't it? (Especially when all the frown lines are permanent)

So, a reminder to self and all: Smile always...Cheers. =D

Funny.

Sometimes I find it amusing the way people 'protect' other people.

They tell them only what they want to hear.

They show them only what they want to see

They lie when they have to

They keep the truth suppressed, because it would hurt.

But come on....

Is it worth all the lies to protect someone?

Is it worth all the money to protect a company?

Is it worth all the blood to uphold justice?

Sometimes I find it amusing..

Because for the 'greater good' people become bad.

Robin Hood syndrome?

Why must deception be the key to gain trust?

Why must blood be the key to saving lives?

Is this world that ugly??

Funny.....

When we are (still) young

Often when I see kids, children, babies, I will think about the same thing: That they all have a great barrage of energy. They are so energetic, curious, and they have the least worries in the world. It is not that I want to grow down again, but sometimes I feel it could be fun if I can revisit the times when I myself was that energetic, curious and unworrying kid.

Then again, since when did I leave all of that behind?

Well, honestly I think I did once. I was trying so hard to be all grown up and so-called matured. But then again when I thought about it, even grown ups are like kids! Seriously. Have you ever seen your parents fight over petty small things? Literally, arguing over something like 6 year olds. Then laughing to themselves about it. Seems pretty familiar right?

Or, how bout this. Have you ever seen your mom with her old school friends? I laugh every time I see it happen. It's almost like they never grow up. They are as noisy as when they first met 20 years ago.

I've also seen teachers who run away from other teachers at school. Macam main kejar2 pulak. Ada cikgu yang kuat isap rokok dalam toilet. Then kalau kantoi dengan student, gelak2 pulak. Like kids, they all have their naughty side.

And I think it is sad that people fail to realise that being youthful is a part of growing up.

Let's face it. People tend to put two and two together. Most people always feel that being young is being immature. And vice versa. Thing is, it is always not necessarily the case.

Maturity is all about the way of thinking. And while youngsters are young, it is not necessarily true that all youngsters are immature. Adults and old people can be youthful as well, and still not lose the thread of maturity that they have.

I think being youthful is not about denying that we are aging and getting old. We can't stop the course of nature and time, which causes us to grow and age. But then again, who said that we can't feel young and take what is good from youths? Adults can still play and have fun. They can still be naughty in an 'adultish' way, and laugh about it. It's not all work 24 hours a day.

Penatla kalau asyik serious je. It's not about being immature. It's about not losing the youthfulness that we have.

As a reminder to myself, being youthful is not the same as being immature. Being youthful keeps us happy, and playful, and always challenging ourselves in doing something that we can't already do. Sure, when we work those opportunities will diminish somehow, but that doesn't mean that all of it has to go away. Adults can find other ways to laugh and have fun. That is by unleashing the 'inner youth' within, and to not let that spirit go away.

Tagged Part two

"....and then there's the second time."

(Mr Secreteer, 2009)

Tagged by Mrs Besut.

This is the itunes/ WMP tag. Put it on shuffle. With every new question play the next song. The title is written down. The comment is written afterwards. No tricks. No gimmicks.

1. If someone says "will you marry me", you say:
~Warisan wanita terakhir by Teacher's Pet~
(Alhamdulillah. I'll be a good husband too. "Untukmu akan ku semaikan...")

2. How yould you describe yourself?
~Better Man by Robbie Williams~
(Yeah. I'm pretty progressive)

3. What do you like in a girl/boy:
~What About Now by Daughtry~
(She's aware of the direction she's currently taking)

4. How do you feel today?
~Chiquitita by ABBA~
(Chiquitita means "little girl". I feel like it's time for me to find a "chiquitita" of my own)

5. What is your life's purpose?
~Cinta di Akihir Garisan by Nora, Ziana, Ning, Dessy~
(Yeah, to find true love. Spiritually and Physically)

6. What is your motto?
~Hanya Satu Persinggahan by Rahmat Ekamatra~
(Yeah. Life is short. Live it)

7. What do your friends think of you?
~Sejati by Wings~
(Yeah. I try to be a true friend always. Rakan sejati)

8. What do you think of your parents?
~Do It Again by Steely Dan~
(errr....still open to interpretation)

9. What do you think about very often?
~Read My Mind by The Killers~
(Yeah. Whether people can read my mind, or am I such a poker face?)

10. What is a good advice for you?
~The Road to Mandalay by Robbie Williams~
(the video is about robbing a truck. So no robbing a truck for me)

11. What do you think of your best friend?
~Money, money, money by ABBA~
(Best friend mata duitan. haha. No lah. No best friend)

12. What do you think of the person you like?
~Misteri Mimpi Syakila by Wings~
(Yeah. She's mysterious and I dream about her sometimes)

13. What is your life story?
~Somebody Told Me by The Killers~
(Somebody told me my life story is pretty happenning. But thats what they all say)

14. What do you want to be when you grow up?
~When You Were Young by The Killers~
(I want to be what I wanted to be when I was young. That's true)

15. What do you think of when you see the person you like?
~Human by the Killers~
(Yeah. She's beautiful, and she is human. I am human as well, and we make mistakes)

16. What will you dance at your wedding?
~Nemo by Nightwish~
(Yeah. Dance the ancient Nemo Dance haha)

17. What will they play at your funeral?
~Come On Feel the Noise by Quiet Riot~
(Yeah. To break the silence and keep people from crying)

18. What is your hobby/interest?
~Hapus aku by Nidji~
(Yeah, I like Nidji hahaha. And I'm in love with this song)

19. What is your biggest fear?
~Cemetary Gates by Pantera~
(Yeah. Cemetaries freak me out sometimes. Especially those with big creepy gates)

20. What is your biggest secret?
~Hangar 18 by Megadeth~
(Yup. I know a lot of alien secrets. I won't tell you)

21. What do you think of your friends?
~Honey Honey by ABBA~
(Haha. They all bring some excitement to my life. Like in this song)

22. What did you do last night?
~Halaman Asmara by Awie and Ziana~
(Haha..That's a coincidence =p)

23. How would you describe your mom?
~Thank You For the Music by ABBA~
(Haha. Yeah mom. Thank you for the music. I'll carry the tunes you play forever)

24. What do people assume when they first look at you?
~Gears of War by Megadeth~
(Yep. I'm a man that won't give up in a 'war'. Haha)

25. Will I have a happy life?
~Voulez Vouz by ABBA~
(Voulez vouz means 'do you want'. Yeah I do want a happy life. InsyaAllah I'll get it)

I'm tagging:
Mr Russia
Mr Armenia
Mr Sg Petani
Ms Kota Bharu
Ms Village

"Playtime's over. For now"

Separation between the mates

Just an observation: In life we have a lot of 'mates'. There are schoolmates, workingmates, housemates, roomates, goodmates, futsalmates, bandmates, etc etc.

kiranya 'mates' are people who we have something in common la kan? Futsalmates are people who play futsal with us. Workingmates are people who work with us, etc.

Also an observation: When there is one person being two or three kinds of 'mates', boleh ke??

Of course la boleh you would say. Dah kalau dia kawan kita and dia main futsal dengan kita. Thats being a mate(friend) and futsal mate already right??

But katakanlah ada kawan tu main futsal dengan kita, kita lagi anggap dia as 'futsal mate' or 'mate' (friend)??

This is what I mean by the separation of the mates.

Sometimes (not all the time), there are some people who think of someone as some kind of mate rather than a friend. We can agree that a friend is the most general kind of 'mate'. However, ada some people yang anggap setengah kawan tu 'only as a bandmate' or 'only someone yang pergi CC dengan dia'. This is the kind of separation I have been seeing, in that the only thing they will talk about is the thing they have in common, and nothing else.

And sometimes, as usual, I got some questions:

Boleh ke a good friend guarantee you in becoming a good housemate?

Boleh ke a working mate become your friend? Or it wouldn't happen?

Kita really kisah ke pasal orang yang main futsal dengan kita? Or kita just geng dengan dia sebab nak main futsal?

Is this a good thing or bad thing?

Should this change?

Well, apapepun this is something that I have been seeing fo quite a long time. It could be good, or could be bad. Maybe some things are better left how they are right? Apapepun, in the end I think although there is a kind of separation between the mates, try as hard as you can to be a good friend to them. That is the most basic thing, and if you fail to be any other kind of mate, you are still friends.

Just a Thought.

It's kind of been in mind for some time now. Sometimes I wonder....

• Does the transport minister ever rides on the public transport, ever pay toll and beratur at the highway and tolls?

• Do the Kings ever know how it is like becoming the rakyat, and what certain rakyats view them as.

• Do the lawmakers really know the rationale of every law they make?

• Do the debaters for the law really know what they are debating about and why they are debating about amendments/new laws? Do they debate while taking into account the current and probable future situations?

• Does the government ever stop thinking that politics is all about winning, and actually all about developing a country. (Honestly, some politics are like soap operas)

• Do the bosses in offices ever think that their subordinates are the key factor in making them succeed?

• Do the bosses ever thank their subordinates?

• Do subordinates 'respect' the bosses because they are the boss or because they are actually respectable?

• Do the MPs realise that they are chosen, and without the choice, of the poeple, they are actually nothing.

• Does the MP ever thank the people?

• Why does no public figure ever say sorry publicly on TV. Is it THAT hard??

Well, just thoughts. Sometimes these questions do not need answers.

Rebellious

Do we realise that we always seem to be a rebel of the system. Or rather, we like to be a rebel of the system. Well, maybe not all of us, but it kind of happens to me, and I don't really know why.

Nak kata cool jadi rebel, tak gak. But not being a rebel pon tak cool gak. Jadi YES MAN je. Camtu ke?

Honestly, I'm still trying to find the reason why am I so rebellious. Or rather, why I tend to be rebellious. Take for example, the Goverment. Semua government buat semua tak kena. Ni tak kena. Itu tak kena. So kira rebellious la kan. Tak support langsung apa Govt buat. Tapi kalau tak buat pon tak suka gk. Lets say the Govt buat public transport. Kalau tak buat pon complain. Tapi kalau buat pon complain juga.

Other issues? What about parents. Now, my relation with my parents are a lot better. I used to not listen to what they say when I was younger. Diorang kata study, aku main. Diorang kata main, aku tanak main. Diorang suruh makan, aku tanak makan. etc2. Bapak aku suruh studi, aku tanak studi. Bapak aku suruh solat, aku ponteng. (Ya Allah, jahat nya aku ni). Like dat la. Why am I so rebellious haa?

So there goes. I'm always an outsider to the system. Always doing the opposite thing. But if you think about it, people who are rebellious might have a point after all. I mean, it's not like they don't think. Say for example, students who rebel against what the govt does. They are students, and they are educated, therefore they think and have the ability to be critical. Even parents are rebellious. Professional, working people. So we can't say that people who rebel are dumb and stupid right?

Well, apape pun, I always have a resolution that rebelling has its ways, adab, and has its limits. Not being extreme is the best way to do anything, and in this case it holds true as well.

Anyway, these are just ramblings of the night.

Personality : The Observer

*This column I'm opening describes the various personalities I see in people every day. Just the personality, not the people. It might interest you to some extent. I will update if necessary.*



The observer mainly observes what other people do. They can also observe the everyday happenings of everyday life. It must be clear that observing is distinguishable from seeing. Seeing is the ability to only see, but seldom has the ability to extract information. Observing however, is a bit different.

The observer can always focus its attention on a certain person or action, or whatever. Therefore, they are good at determining patterns, predicting what comes next, determining who is affected and who is not, and also think about what is the next worthy move.

Seldom noisy, the observer tends to be quiet because noise can distract its attention. Always associated with 'the listener', but there are some different cases as well. Some observers are also noisy, and at first detection, will voice out its point of view.

The observer can be helpful to people who needs opinions, or predictions. Like dabbling in stock market, or predicting the next move of a girlfriend, or talking about current issues. They can be good friends, if they use their skill for the benefit and not the opposite. They can be pretty nosy sometimes, because they see what people don't see and they are always curious to know more. If you are secretive,be careful of the observer, they can see your every move.

Look at that....

Look...
The man standing in the corner...
Alone and timid...
but he thinks he looks strong...

Why is he alone??
Is it because people don't understand him?
..or he doesn't understand people?
..or he just is not the people person??
..or he is too choosy with people?..

why don't people talk to him?
look, take a look...
he won't look at you...
he won't look at you when he talks....
what is he looking at?
..the sky? the moon?

why do people not talk to him?
because of his moods? ego? arrogance?
because he won't talk to you..
..unless he wants to...unless he chooses to..

look at that..
he's taking to someone
is it his business partner?
..or a client?
...or a guarantor?
..or a money lender??
..because he only talks to these people.
who gives him benefit....no one else

Look...
The man in the corner..
in the dark..
Forever???
Please God...
Don't let me be him..Amiinnn

Random #3

"Randomness is fun. It keeps people unfocused"

• There are many types of 'pandai'. Got pandai academic, pandai cari duit, pandai tipu, pandai tak tipu, pandai cakap, pandai intai, etc2. So to say someone is 'bodoh' might not have its justifications, as they may be pandai in something else.

• Some people remember wealth more than memories. They will remember the money they spend, the things they buy, the food they eat everyday. So the only thing they will appreciate, is wealth.

• ...and some people remember memories more. They will remember the good and bad experiences. The times spent with one another. Events, and dates. And these people will tend to appreciate memories more.

• Maturity does not come with age. It comes with experience, added with the ability to think and learn.

• Reminder to self : Always listen and not only hear. Always talk, and not always say. Always do, and not always talk.
  

• We will appreciate something when it comes from ourselves. When we find our own money, or buy our own car. We'll appreciate it more.

• Work hard, play harder, and sleep more.

• Reminder : Money can come in zounds, but character is hard to find.

• Reminder : Don't forget our experiences.
  

...more to come.

Tagged Part one.

"All professionals have their play time. And this is one of em."
(Mr Secreteer, 2009)

Tagged by 'Mr Independance'. I guess you know the rules so I won't tell ya. =p. Here goes :

1. The age you'll be on your next birthday:

(kira lah, pastu tolak satu =D)

2. A place you'd like to travel to:

(Aurora Borealis in Alaska)

3. Your favourite place:

4. Your favourite food:

5. Your favourite pet:

6. Favourite colour combination:

7. Favourite piece of clothing:

(I'd love that towel)

8. All time favourite song:
9. Favourite TV show

10. First name of your significant other/crush:

11. The town which you live in:

12. Your screen name or nickname:


13. Your first job:


14. Your dream job:

15. Your worst fear:

16. The one thing you'd like to do before you die:

17. The first thing you'll do if you get $10,000,000:


I'm tagging:

xpreSmE
Lily
Ms Dimple
Mr Prime Minister
Che Det

"Pictures tell a thousand words. Remember. Look with your mind's eye as well"
(Mr Secreteer, 2009)

Regrets.

"There is nothing more painful than regrets"

And how true this turns out to be. This was an advice given to me by a senior of mine when I was in school. I was 13. And as I grew up through the years, I came to see that definitely, There is nothing more painful than regrets.

Why, why is this true? Because feeling regret means that you are not satisfied with what you had done (or not done) before. You feel that you could have done it differently, or you feel that you shouldn't have done it. And regret always comes when you are in a situation that you cannot change. That is why, there is nothing more painful than regrets.

There was a friend of mine, who died in a car accident. But he wasn't the one driving. He and a group of friends were coming home from a futsal game at 1 in the morning. There weren't many cars on the road, so the driver pushed a bit too hard on the accelerator. The story that I heard consistently was that the car was too fast when negotiating a corner, and the car turned over and landed on its top. There were 4 people in the car. Only my friend died. The driver was injured, not dead. My friend was only 18.

So imagine the guilt that the driver had to live with. The regret that he feels. He could have changed it. He could have driven slowly and safely. Now, a friend died, and he regrets what he's done. But however guilty he feels, he lost a life, and he will never get it back.

Sometimes there are also regrets regarding parents. When my grandmother passed away, my dad was one of those who did not cry. He never did I think. And I asked him why, because I felt strange. He said:

"I did not have any regrets with my mother. I did all I could to help her. I was a good son. I never shouted at her. I never got angry at her. I respected her. Because she was a good mother, I was a good son. "

And this kind of opened my eyes a bit. What my dad said was true. He was a good son, and he did not cry because he did what he could and what he should. He did not have any regrets, so he did not feel pain when my grandmother passed away. Imagine, on the contrary that my dad was a bad son. Imagine if he never visited my grandparents, or if he never calls, or he was always angry at them. Surely, when my grandma passes away, he would be the one crying, because he could have made his relationship with his parents better, but he never did. He would feel the pain, because he regrets what he didn't do for his parents.

There are also regrets regarding friends. Some people, when they have a lot of friends, they tend to compartmentalize and classify their friends. There is the 'in' group and the 'out' group all of a sudden. Some people start to prioritise the 'in' group but start to neglect the 'out' group in effect. So imagine if one day he needs help, and he asks for help to the 'out' group, and they would not want to help him. the regret starts kicking in, because now he's lost his friends, and it would be hard to get them back.

There are all kinds of regrets in this world, and to tell what I know would take a lot more than one post. So I'm going to stop here. All I am saying, is that sometimes we don't realise the regret, until we actually feel it. By that time, it would be too late, in any case. whether it is about money, or parents, or friends, or death, or education, or smoking, or anything, regret is always painful. So when we act, act such that we can minimise out regret. Keep in contact with friends. Help out your parents. Drive slowly and safely. Tell your girlfriend/ wife you love her. Keep a civil toungue. Stay away from drugs. Anything, to keep away from regret.

Positive Thinking

I want to tell a story about a boy, when he was 13

He was in secondary school. His friends always picked on him, because he was always angry and he was always so uptight. To vent out his anger, he made fun of people, and that made the situation even worse. It went on like this, until he was 15, when he met a friend who he was comfortable with, and he looked pretty calm. This friends of his was like him, an outlaw, who was not in the 'in' group. However, when he asked his friend how he dealt with it, his friend simply said:

"Life is unpredictable. All we can do is look at the bright side, and smile about it."

And with these words of wisdom, the boy started to look at the world in a different way. He found that, not all that he sees, is like what it seems. Something bad that happens to him, might not be bad at all, when conceived in a different way. Not getting something that he wants, might be a good sign for the future. And with this new, positive outlook, he was a lot happier, and little did he realise, his happiness made him a genuine friend to all, and in return people genuinely liked him too. Everytime when people ask, he can tell his story, because he survived the tale, and it made him a better person.

And I learnt from it as well...

There were a lot of things in my life that I wasn't satisfied with. At least, when I was younger. I did not have the liberty of going out much when I was young, because my parents were quite strict, and were quite protective when we were young. Naturally, the rebellious side of a boy would tell me to just ignore the advice and go out. However, when conceived in a different way, at that age, going out meant risks, dangers if you will. How many kids got mugged, or hit, or robbed of their money? How many had their life on the line? Yes, I didn't have the luxury of going out early, but at least I matured by not doing so.

Sometimes, parents get angry, because of their protectiveness. Parents would always do so, they are, well, parents. So the natural reaction would be to get angry, to sulk, to rebel. And yes, most of the time people rebel. But when they do, they don't see the rationale behind the protectiveness. All they know, as far as they are concerned, is that their parents do not understand them, and their parents are angry. What they fail to see, is that the parents do understand, and that is why they are so strict about it. If the kid has a positive outlook, being angry might not be the obvious reaction. In fact, it opens opportunity for a lot more discussion, or at least a chance for the kid to justify himself. If the parents act is looked upon positively, the kid might not get what he wants now, but he matures due to the incident.

What about friends?

Yes, sometimes friends say something that we don't like. Maybe a friend likes to pick on you, sakat you if you will. Sometimes your friend is just trying to be friendly to you, and it takes a positive mind to see this. If not, you might conceive that your friend is trying to attack you, personally. Most of the time, this might not be the case right?

Sometimes, even the worst situations, if looked upon positively, can do us a lot more good than bad. Imagine if you failed an exam, (or almost failed). The normal response is that "I'm dumb! I'm stupid!". This might not be the case. You might be a bit slow, yes, but you are not dumb. If you are positive about it, even if you fail, it might be an indicator that you need to study harder, or not at the last minute, or study seriously. Or study in a different environment, or study with a different technique. There is always a reason why God gives you hardship. As said by a friend of mine earlier on in life, "God will not give you what you cannot handle".

What about if we get something, how do we get positive about that? Or more precisely, how do we not be negative about it? For example, imagine if you finally got together funds to buy yourself a new laptop. Sometimes, material things can change people, in which he will boast of his new product, or that he got to buy it cheap, or he starts to compare with other people. In this case, your 'niat' must be correct I guess, so that you don't get all negative and piss people off. If the intention is to use it to help you do your work, and not boast around and tell people that you have a good one and they don't, then you will have a better outlook and therefore would have a better outcome. Trust me.

Other examples? Sometimes we get a bit more money than other people. We are financially more secure than others. That does not mean we have to boast around and show off that we have a lot of money. If we get a king's paycheck it doesnt mean that we have to live like a king, and it doesn't mean that we have to live like a pauper either. In fact, a more positive approach would be to just keep quiet, and if you can help, you help people, financially. It does not mean, however that you should splash your money on other people until it puts you in a rut that you can't get out of. Taking the middle road is the key.

There are, sometimes people who are more beautiful than others, more 'macho' than others. Similarly, a positive outlook can apply here. So what if she is more beautiful than you? You might have more genuine friends. You might be a lot more genuine in friendship yourself. You might have more respect, because you know who you are and you are humble about it. Similarly, what if you are more beautiful than others? Does it gives you the right to boast around? Remember, beauty comes with a price, both financially and personally. If you are beautiful but you lack values, attitude, and most probably, happiness, would you like that? Think about it.

All i am saying, is that in life, put it bluntly, s**t happens. All the time, we will feel hardship, but remember, God is fair, and God is the fairest of all. All hardships has its benefits, and to get through and see why God gives us hardship, we need to be positive about it. If we can see the 'prawn in between the rocks', InsyaAllah, we will have a happier life, and we can control our stress more. Who knows, laughter might be the best medicine after all, as it is the positive of all positive acts.

Old Friends

Old friends are great. Especially friends from school, as they know us the best. They've been the longest friends with us. They understand us, and we do so as well. Question is, do we know how to keep them?

I went out with my friend (Lets call my friend 'N') the other day. 'N' brought some old school friends along and their relation was great. All of them are now studying at different places, but they still meet up frequently and kept in contact with each other. (Not to mention other 'gossips' about other people haha).

Even my sister, who is now in secondary school, still keeps in contact with her primary school friends. Of course, when she was 11 and 12, she already had a handphone and the luxury of internet, something that I never had at my disposal when I was her age. However, now that I think of it, it is kind of an excuse too. There are other ways to keep in contact with old friends when I was in primary school.

Some people learn early about keeping friends. As early as 13 years old, primary school friends who are separated will write letters to each other, will send greeting sms over the phone, and in this age, online chatting helps a lot in keeping friends together. Some people learn late however. In my case, I kind of regret that I didn't know how to keep in contact with my friends from primary school when I was in primary school. Only now am I trying to keep track of all of them, and it is hard too. Imagine doing something now that I should've done years back, only at that time I did not see the point of doing it. Good thing that my friends still remember me, and I still hang out with some of them.

As I stepped into secondary school, I can kind of see the point in keeping old friends. Not only as a place to get wild and free, keeping old friends also mean that there is a cushion in case we fall. In the long term when we are adults, our friends are the ones who are going to help reccommend us to the authorities for a job. Our friends are the ones who are going to tell us where to get a good job. Our friends might even open a business with us. They will be more than willing to help us because we were old friends. Bear in mind though, that I DO NOT encourage people to be friends only due to networking purposes. That is wrong, intentionally, because then we befriend people for an ulterior motive. Our niat must be in the right place, and that is something we have to figure out earlier on when becoming friends.

I am in uni now, and I hope to not do the same mistake I did in primary school. Seems a long way back, but the effects can last for a long long time. Lets hope then when we are all old, we are still going to have some old friends, so that we can laugh about the memories the same way we did a looooong time back. haha.

Direction

There was once a time when a friend of mine wanted to go to Mekah, to perform her umrah. Then, when we chatted on YM, she asked me, "Ada anything you want me to doa in front of the Kaabah??". Then it struck me. I didn't know what to answer her. Of course, there's a million things that I want, but at that moment it struck me that I didn't really have an aim, a direction in this life. In short, I wasn't sure of what I want. At least, I've never given it a thought".

Now I'm not talking about long term, future investment plans,the "What I want to be in 10 years" kind of thing. That, I always go with the flow. This direction that I mean, is generally, "What are we actually looking for in life. Do we really know of what we actually want to make of our lives." I mean, let's face it. Putting aside all the careers, the success, the money, the wealth, the power, will we really be satisfied with what we have.

I guess at some point in time, everyone will start to think of this. I mean, there are a lot of people who, at 50 years old, given the high positions and the money, look back with a bit of regret and think, "Wow. What have I achieved all these years?". Why, with all the success, still he can ask that sort of question? I guess, he hasn't really found what he's looking for, yet.

Let's face it. If a person lives in this world, following the direction of success, fame, money, wealth, then he will be satisfied, because he followed the direction that he was looking for, and he achieved it. But what if people want a different direction. What if people don't live for money, and fame, and all that. Then, if any, what direction does he follow?

My ustaz one told me a story, which made me think a bit. It goes a bit like this:

"Awak fikir yeh. Sorang engineer, kawin dengan sorang doctor, duit banyak, tapi anak sikit. Lepas tu boleh cerai pulak tu. Pastu awak tengok orang2 kampung. Kerja nelayan. Isteri suri rumah. Duit sikit, tapi anak ramai. Lepas tu boleh kekal sampai usia lanjut".

Well, I only half believed him of course. I mean, let's face it. Not every engineer-doctor combination is doomed to fail. And not every fisherman-housewife is guaranteed success. But then when I thought again, it does have some element of truth. My grandparents was an immigration officer - housewife combination. They had 8 children. (12, sepatutnya). They lived in the same house since they moved to Kedah. And so far, all the family members are still speaking to each other (Alhamdulillah). Then I compared this to the people in America. Women are not getting married, since they can 'take care of themselves'. People in Hollywood get married and get divorced everyday. Now everyone is going out with everyone. If you don't want to look too far, look at the people in Malaysia. Teenagers smoking. Muslims drinking alcohol, freely. The same 'married-divorce' phenomena. Haiya.

So, what is my bloody point again?

Look at my grandparents for instance. They, I think are a good example of following a direction that is the 'middle road'. Simple job, yet money is not the thing they chase. They are not building wealth, yet they are not poor. They have 8 children, and all of them got married. They have good friends, good family, and children that remember them when they passed away. They chose to follow happyness, and peacefulness, and that is what they got, Alhamdulillah.

Now look at the women in America. After their studies, they want to focus on their careers, perhaps partly due to the force of circumstances, in that in America, you have to be 'somebody' to live in that kind of (developed?) country. So, getting married and starting a family becomes second priority. We can't blame them. If we were living in that situation, we might need to do the same as well.

The teenagers in Malaysia? Perhaps the lack of direction caused this lack of awareness of moral values? They don't really know what they want in this world. So just do, and see what happens later. Until when mate? The misguided Muslims? What kind of direction are they following? Certainly not the religion. Maybe the 'nakal2 dulu taubat later' direction?

From all this observation, I guess finding direction early on in life is important, so that we don't go astray. So that we are sure, that when we keep on living, we think "Yep, this is what I want. Alhamdulillah". If we don't find direction early on, most probably we won't feel happy when we go on, because what happenned to us is not what we really want. But, bear in mind. What we want, must have a flexibility as well. Not everything is going to happen our way, therefore the way we chase our direction must be open to a lot of options.

So, what I am hoping, is to the most moderate direction possible. Maybe not too rich, as money can change people. Not too poor, as then it will be hard to live. I won't live like a minister, with all the glam and stars, and I won't live like a pauper either. I hope that I will live with an easy and calm heart, and that I can handle the stresses well. I hope to be happy, always, and I hope that I can stay hapy for a very2 long time. That, is the kind of direction that I hope for. Aminn.

'Professional" Love notes

*This is pretty playful. I hope you will bear with it hehe. *

Imagine a time when you were in school, be it in a co-ed school or a single gender school. Have you ever gotten a love note from someone?? Heheh. Sometimes don't you think that love notes are a little bit templated, and we tend to say things that we can find on another 100 love notes. Maybe you had seen a love note like this:

"Hi awak. Saya rindu lahh.. Nak jumpa tak??"

or perhaps maybe:

"Awak tau, semalam saya mimpi pasal awak" (Yuxxx)
(last night I had a dream about you...)

Aiya. Don't you think it's a little bit boring. Sometimes it seems that what we find written on love notes in school is kind of the same in every love note. Is there a standard to comply to or something??? So in this night of boredom, I was thinking of ways to 'spice up' our love notes, or maybe have some crazy ideas of what love notes might be like.

For example, imagine a really dramatic, over emphasized love note. It might look something like this:

"Hey s*y**g...I miss u lahh. Everytime I want to see you my heart pounding like crazy lah. My palms start getting sweaty lah. I really miss u lah. Want to jumpa ke?? Jom lah"

Well, it can get worse. After all, humans are good at romanticising things. This might be okay for some 'experienced' people. What about we consider the 'sastera' side of love notes. 'Sastera' notes might look like this:

"Di kala senja tatkala kita berjumpa kelak, akan aku semaikan satu perasaan sayang kepadamu, dan hanya untuk kamu cintaku itu. Percayalah, tiada yang lain dari mu. "

haha. This might be the most ideal kind of notes for BM teachers. Its a good thing they never show their romantic side. Or else it may seem like the above. (Yuckssss). Haha.

Have you ever considered love notes which have monetary value in it? It may be ones you see bankers giving their loved ones. It may look something like this:

"I love you, more than all the money in this bank. More than what money can buy. Even if I was to choose between a Mercedes and you, I would choose you. (Except of course, the E270). Oh I love you, with all my heart, and I promise I will shower my worth of savings on you, and you alone."

Haha. Sounds more like an auction than a love note. What about a lawyer's/judge's love note?? All in the name of the law. It may look something like this:

"What I tell you here is the truth, only the truth and nothing but the truth. I love you, even if I have to face the electric chair if I do. The law cannot take us apart. If I'd have to sentence 100 men to jail to get your heart, I will. Trust me, I have no alibis."

Haha. Even judges/ lawyers have their romantic side right. Hehe. What about an engineer's love note?? It may look somthing like this:

"Oh love,our love is like connecting the LEDs of the veroboard. When it connects, it lights up, and nothing can go wrong (except of course, short circuits and such). Everytime I see you my LED turns red, and when you are gone, its like the batery runs dead. Oh love, you are the wire in my circuit"

Or something like that. It can get worse, trust me. After all, behind all the shady glasses and large calculators, engineers sure have a romantic side to them as well.

Haha.What about a pharmacist's love note might look like? All in finding the right potions. It can look something like this:

"You need a medicine, a love medicine, and in this pharmacy I will find one, whether generic or not, because I am so in love with you, but you don't seem to care."

Wow. And to think love potions do not exist. Watch out people, the pharmacy is more than what it seems. huhu. Ever thought about a painter's love note? All about the colour. Might be something like this:

"Please love, everytime I see you talk to another man, green starts covering me. But when you talk only to me, I can feel the yellow sinking in. When I look into your eyes, the calmness of blue will cover me. But when you make me mad, pitch dark redness I see."

Huhu. And still, there are millions of "professional" love notes that can be thought off. It goes to show that when some 'spicing up' is needed, be "professional". Trust me, its a lot more honest than the same old thing.

As an endnote, I give you something to ponder upon. What about a Prime Minister's love note??

~~"Tak paaa...saya tetap sayangggg =p" ~~

All The Small Things

Have you ever felt that some people are just too commanding when they are asking you to do something? It may even be a simple favour, but still you think that you are being taken for granted, and you feel that you are being shoved around, asked to "Do This. Do That. Go do this. Go do that". You do? Well my friend, welcome to the world of "Un-manners"

In this world, saying all the small things, such as "Please", "Thank you" and "Sorry" is unacceptable. It is looked upon as being weak, as being too 'soft' to ask for help. Well, if THEY are SOOOOO strong, they wouldn't need our help in the first place, would they?

When we think about it, there is a vast difference in asking for help and commanding or giving orders. However, little do we realise that only a small difference is needed to interchange between the two. Consider this:

"Hey, tolong bukakkan kan computer boleh? Angah nak pakai.."

and this......

"Weyh, gi bukak computer. Angah nk pakai cepat"

Well, same meaning, but different mode of delivery. Do you realise the difference?? What about this one:

"Please pay rent by end of this week"

and this....

"Rent this week RM90. Pay ASAP "

The same message. Different implication. The first one you would think is from a friend to a friend. The second one sounds more like the note on the fridge speaking. Very little difference, but very vast different in implication.

What about saying thank you and sorry? Bosses in high places. Do you think their subordinates respect them just because they are the boss? What about acknowledging the help that the subordinates give? Usually no thanks is given for the work done, be it in a small group or a large organization. What about saying sorry, when you know you are wrong?? Don't you think that it settles a lot when we say all the small things?

Think about when we say them. When we say thank you more often, we are not portraying weakness. In fact, when we gather the courage to acknowledge someone's help, they will respect us a lot more for it. It does not need an overflowing barrage of sweet words and compliments. Sometimes, a simple "thank you" is what we need. Imagine hearing a politician thanking the 'normal' people. Isn't that something sweet that you don't hear often??

And about saying sorry. When we acted wrongly towards a person, isn't it best to settle it quickly and admit that we are wrong? If we are truly wrong, not saying sorry and not admitting it does not make us any more right. It does not make us weak to say that we are wrong. Saying it takes courage, and trying to make it right is the strongest point of all. We are human after all, and we make mistakes. We don't need chocolates and cards to say sorry. Saying it one to one, a simple "sorry" is all that we need. It CAN make a difference, trust me.

As an endnote, I would like to summarise:

"Saying thank you does not make us weak. It deletes all sense of arrogance towards us, and people give us respect so we are not weak in their eyes"

"Saying please makes the difference between asking for help and giving orders. Which one is for you?? You decide"

"Saying sorry and admitting you are wrong will settle a lot of unsaid things. Its better to let them go than to keep them botlled"

So my friends, remember its not ONLY about the portrayal of good manners. Its all about having them and making them a part of you. Next time you go out, remember all the small things.

Random # 2

• The element of mystery is essential in the lives of men. It certainly adds to the appeal.
• Old perceptions are like old habits. They're hard to get rid off.
  
• We always find what we wanted when we don't want it anymore.
  
• With more expectations, comes more hope, and can result in more frustration. So try not have too much expectation. When in doubt, expect the worst.
• My dad once taught me : Learn the hardest things in life so that when you come to something not as hard, you will know how to handle it. He was right. Learning things the hard way has its merits. Think about the African Americans. Think about the British overcoming the Great Depression. Think about our Malay forefathers, who struggled against the colonialists, and succeeded. Think about us now, who gets things easy. Are we better off?
  
• When we don't try we don't know. When we don't know we don't care. When we don't care we are missing out on something.
• Does maturity really come with with age?
• Some old fashioned values are always overlooked. What happened to saying please and thank you, sincerely. What happened to saying sorry? It's not about the portrayal of good manners. It's about having them and making sure they are a part of us.
• There is only one mode for most politicians. Only *talk2* mode is running. This is the easiest mode as apologizing and saying thank you is hardly ever in their consideration.
• Everything in life is theoretically ideal and good, until you bring politics into the equation.
• Humans have many faces, trust me.
• People who empower the media can use it to their utmost advantage, whether for the ultimate good which is to spread truth, or for the worst of the worst, which is to spread lies and blackmail people.

Money.

Money.Everyone loves money. Definitely. The people who don't have it, want it. The people who already have it, want more of it. You can't deny it's importance too. For food, clothes, housing, cars, leisure, shopping, marriage....just to name a few.

But everyone can't deny the dangers as well. People wage wars using money. A certain country (Country I) with a certain financial backing (Country A) is now trespassing on the grounds of a certain country (Country P). Country I has tanks, rockets, weapons, u name it, due to the backing of country A. The people of country P, are helpless, while being driven out of their own land, staying on something less than what we now call a country. Money has also the ability of recessing the economy. By nature, if the leakages are more than the injections, (money in is less than money out), the economy may be aiming for a recession. (A recession may be good, depends on the current state of the economy).

But bear in mind, money trading was the dominant cause in the recession of '97. (remember Mr Soros). Money is also the source of buying drugs, which then lead to junkies breaking cars and stealing radios and such just to get money to fund their addiction. Money also accelerates the 'escort' industry. In country T, the prostitution industry is said to be an important contributor to the economy. But what about the deseases, the morality, the value and honour?? Is it worth compromising all of that for money? Money is also the source of buying 'self-destruction' products. Think about alcohol, then think about the number of people dead on the streets because of drunk driving. Think about alcohol, and think about the number of people dead in alcohol-fueled street brawls, the number of teenagers binge drinking. Think about John Bonham, who died due to 16 shots of Vodka. Think about Bon Scott, who died due to axphisiation (choked on his own vomit). Think about smoking, and what smoking does to the lungs, to the heart. How many people die early due to smoking, and how many people live longer when they don't. Think about corruption, and the countries that are low on the index of Transparency International. Think about country I (In Asia), country M (also in Asia), country R (A slovakian country).

So money money money, ain't it funny?

When you think about it properly, who is actually to blame. We can't live without money, as termed by a peer of mine, it's a neccessary evil, or something like that. But the big picture of all this is how we use money, and how money can change a person, a country, a group, a business, an organization, a world.

Let's look at it in a small scale.

I know a friend of mine, who has money like the rest of us. He gets monthly income, like most of his friends who are also studying. Yet he does not use his money wisely. He spends too much on phone credit, making international calls. Always close to 300+ per month (according to sources). On eating and other expenditure, its also a bit overblown. This friend of mine loves to buy luxuries (games etc) which are not really necessities. Due to this weakness in avoiding the temptation of money, it starts to get worse. He starts borrowing from people (I hope it's borrowing, not taking money). He has unpaid rent, unpaid bills, and yet the lifestyle does not change much. After much urge from people, only then he starts to see this bad side of temptation. I hope he will mend his ways and pay his debts, and repair the relationship with his friends..Aminn.

What about marrige? Although I agree that the 'hantaran' is important in terms of finance and uphoding the 'adat', why must it be too high? Why must it be lower than the maskahwin. The maskahwin is for the bride, and it is Wajib in the name of God. Sometimes I think the 'hantaran' could be so high, that it can demotivate the groom to marry. Sure, the hantaran is an indicator of prosperity, as well as readiness to take care of the bride and the family. But then, how long do we have to work in order to pay that kind of money? It's okay if the money comes from his work. What if he starts borrowing from people. Or worse still, from loan sharks. I'm not saying that the 'hantaran' is bad, I'm just saying that it may be time for the number to be revised, so to fit the paycheck of the groom more readily. Help the situation, and don't make the financial problems worse.

Another story. A good family member of mine (Mr S) was talking to his friend, (Mr K) when then the issue of financial matters came up. Mr S, Alhamdulillah has his children getting scholarships for further study, which helps him a lot in terms of finance. Mr K however, had to fork up quite a figure to further his son's study. However, the thing that bothers me most is when Mr K tells Mr S: "You don't know how it feels, forking up money to pay for your son's education. Your son has a scholarship. You think it's easy ka??". Now when I first heard he story, I was thinking "This guy is bloody arrogant. So now it's wrong to get a scholarship??". Come on. Is Mr S to blame because his son has a scholarship and he does not need to fork out much money for his son's study? Is Mr K the hero for doing what he does? Look at the other side of the globe mann. If your son got the bloody scholarship, would you be saying the same bloody thing? If you didn't have the money, what are you complaining about? Go send your son somewhere where it does not need too much money. What about IPTA? What about Polytech?

This is another danger of money, in that it can rapidly change the personality of men, due to the power it gives and the temptation it presents.

In my view, whatever the size of the paycheck is, does it matter if the value, the morality and the attitude is compromised? Think about people in high places who have a big paycheck, but are involved in graft, corruption and bribery. Think about the people who live in dirty money, where the high figures involved had erased all sense of dignity and guilt. In the small scale? Think about people who borrow from friends, to fund their luxuries. Think about junkies, who steal to fund their addiction. Think about desperation, and the 'escorts' who resort to it. Think about guilt, and the lack of it so that people can steal money from others. ATM machines are being stolen, why? Human traficking is on high. Why? Corruption in countries. Why? Waging wars on innocent people. Civilians killed. Why? Drugs being traficked. Why? why? why?

Sure money is good. Think also about the charities. Think about people in high places who have money and donates to charity. Think about trust funds, and how it helps people. Think about flash funds, to help flood victims in Aceh, to help civilians in Palestine. Yes, money is good, important, but with every good man-made thing there comes a balanced evil that can come out of it.

So the issue? It's not money. It's the people. It's how people use money. It's how money can change people's lives, their perspective, their point of view. It's the failure to realize the responsibility of using money, that leads to the misgivings of men. So readers, decide. If you have money, ask yourself if you realize the responsibilty bestowed in using them. If money worsens you, control your perspectives. If money improves you, Alhamdulillah. If you can better your lifestyle without compromising the values and attitudes in life, by all means please step up your lifestyle. Remember the past, and what can happen if we don't take note. Use money wisely, and realize. With money, comes power, and with power, comes great responsibility.

Emotion

Emotion is a very strong word in my camp. I've always had different perspectives about emotions. During my early teenage years, I used to be very emotional toward certain things. The main emotion that governed my lifestyle during these times was maily anger. I used to always be angry, and I didn't know why, and it felt terrible.

After that, I moved on the see that emotions and emotional acting is not my ideal style of living. So in my remainder years in school, I decided to become a robot. Devoid of much emotion. Little that I realise that this charade I was playing to keep me from being angry, was actually making me feel lifeless and emotionless. After all, anger was not the only emotion, but I used to think that it was. And in the process of avoiding anger, I used to lie to myself in thinking I was happy, when actually I was not. However, this was at the peak of when I started learning to control my emotions. Little did I know, this would help me a lot in the future.

When moved on, and went to uni, I learned to have emotions again, but not to be emotional, which was great. I felt alive again, and the emotion that governed this period was happiness.

And my point?? (you bloody hell must be thinking this hehe)

In 18 years of living, I finally came to the conclusion that happiness is the BEST emotion to be felt. It brings a lot out of any man and woman. It's also relaxing, free annd unstressful. Only the hard part is to find it and to keep it. I also came to conclude that feeling emotion is important, but it should not be a dominant variable in some things.

I grew up with two totally different people in terms of emotion. One who is very emotional, and one who is not. (Lets not give names, just assume okay =D). Say for example, I discuss with the non-emotional one about a trip . Some of the things we might discuss are:

• Where I might be staying
• Who I'm meeting
• What places do I visit
• When I'm coming back

etc etc. Whereas if I discuss with the emotional one, some of the dialogues(in very very emotional tone) might sound like:

• "Jgn la pergi lama2. Nnt boring dok umah"
• "Tak takut ke pergi sorang2?"
• "Karang kalau ada apape jadi karang macam mana?? Susah hati nanti"

And as you can see, there is a vast difference. The first case is focusing on getting the important things across, whereas the second case always focuses on the emotional unimportance, and always the real importance of the discussion if often neglected.

So the point here is that while emotion is important at times, using it as a variable in doing things can be hard. The main goal would be harder to reach, due to uncertainty in the course of the discussion due to the emotions shown.

Aside from that?? I know a guy, Mr S, who fights with his girlfriend sometimes. Generally, Mr S is pretty emotional. When he fights with his girlfriend, he would cut class, monyok2 with friends, and would always feel sad and angry all the time. This is because he is so emotional, that he let his emotions get the best of him. Everytime I see him there must be some drama going on, and he looks so miserable all the time. He tries to cover it up most of the time but he's pretty bad at it too hehehe.

So now what?? Suddenly feeling emotions and being emotional makes you the bad guy all of a sudden??

No no no and no. I'm not saying that at all.

Imagine a world without it. Cmon mate.. Being in love would be soooo boring. No 'manja2' or 'jiwang2' hehe. You don't really know if people care or not. Everything would be monotonous and the same. So life without it isnt a perfect life either. If the world is devoid of emotion, there would be no music. No theatres. No movies. And surely, it is against the 'fitrah' of humans.

My point here, is simply that emotions have the right time and place. I am not saying that it is wrong to show emotions. Nor am I saying that feeling it is wrong. It just needs the right time and place, and also chanelled in a good way. Look at music, or theater. It does no harm, and its fun. Given the correct time and place, emotions can help a lot, and also, the otherwise is true. So, as an endnote, learn to control it, and don't let it get the best of you. Think of Mr S!!

Random #1

• Why must a husband and wife always have some sort of competition between them? Isn't marriage supposed to mean that both persons are on the same side?

• A person's power really depends on how people look at them. Good and bad does not matter anymore

• There are a few types of friends. Friends with benefit, who we do not really know, but gives benefit to us. When the benefit is gone, we slow down in becoming friends. There are also pretend friends. We pretendto like them because our other friends like them, or maybe because it's our girlfriend's/ boyfriend's friend. There are also real friends. We befriend them for genuine reasons. We like to be around them. We respect them and are always concerned about what happens to them

• Today's world is governed and influenced more by speech then substance

• Humour & laughter are important. I relaxes moods, helps interaction, a source of happiness and a way of being truthful to people.

• The fun in games should not be neglected. It's effective, mood lifting and often unconsciously will require a degree of thinking

• There are a lot of things that adults can learn from children. Some of them are having a positive point of view, having and endless barrage of energy, having a great sense of curiosity and always wanting to learn something new.

• Late bloomers will tend to learn things thoroughly and properly.
  

The people we meet

We meet people everyday. People who we know, and also who we don't know. Old people, young people, babies, strong guys, pretty girls....

Things to ponder upon:

1. What is the chance that the people we meet today(at a glance), will become our friend tommorow.
2. Is there a chance that we 'meet' the same person everyday, without us realizing it?
3. Is that same person thinking about the same thing?
4. If we see someone today, a random person, will we see them again someday?
5. what are the chances that the person we once saw at a certain time, and place, is actually related to us?
6. What if 10 years down the line, we will be wed to this person?
7. If 2 random people do meet again someday, is there a chance that they will remember each other?

And for sure, with every question pondered upon gives way to more and more questions.

So why suddenly this thought occurs? Because for the whole of my life so far, I had been 'meeting' with a lot of people. Some things I remember:

1. A father and daughter in a train. The daughter was reading a book, then she fell asleep. The father marked the page she was reading and kept the bok for her. She kept of sleeping and leaned on his shoulder.
2. A tourist asking me for directions to Buckingham Palace(In the UK). I gave him the correct train stop.
   
3. A pretty Middle Eastern girl in the corridor, at UniSA
4. A Singaporean lady at KL Central. The bus was an hour late. She offered me her umbrella.
5. A rude bus driver on the way to TTDI from Sunway. He did not have change for 10 ringgit.
6. Another rude bus driver, screaming to back of the bus to the Indonesian women, whom he thought didn't have tickets, when actually they did.
7. A pretty girl at the airport. My sister spotted me watching this girl (kantoii)

And these are just a number of encounters in my life. After most of my encounters, the same set of questions played in my mind. But then one thought, or remark came to me.

"Why did God 'arrange' my 'meeting' with these people?"

After all, God already knows what is going to happen in my daily life. Everything happens for a reason. So, my conclusion is that while the people whom I meet everyday are random people who I do not know, or never seen before, God arranged me to meet these people for a reason. While fate brings us together, even for a split second, there must be a reason of our encounter and therefore must have an effect, whether directly or indirectly. And this I am sure had happened to other people as well, whether thay had actually realized it or not.

So will we 'meet' someday?? Only God knows.