Why do people love their birthday? Why do people celebrate their anniversary of life?
Why do people feel special on this day?
Why not feel special everyday?
Everyone is unique and quirky in their own way anyway. So why not feel unique everyday?
Why only feel good on your birthday?
Til now I don't know why...
Friday, August 5, 2011
Thursday, August 4, 2011
My Father's Chair
There's a few chairs in my living room in Malaysia.
There's one 'triple sofa' and one 'double sofa'.
And there's one single sofa. I called it my father's chair. Reason being that in that living room, that was his place. That was his seat in my home.
I never knew why I never did. A lot of people have sat in that chair aside from my dad.
Friends, cousins, even my siblings. I don't know about my mum though. I don't remember her ever sitting there.
I wouldn't call it a throne. It's not different from the other sofas.
It was the same level, the same colour, the same design, same cushions, it pretty much resembles all the other chairs there.
His presence wasn't the reason. I never sat there even when he wasn't at home.
Neither was it his command, his wish or instruction. He never forbade any of us sitting there.
And it was definitely not my mum's instruction either. She never forbade any of us sitting there.
So at the end of the day, I still wonder. Why in thirteen years I lived there, I've never sat at that one spot.
But little did I know, my father and myself were not that different.
Turns out, he never sat on his father's chair either.
His father's rocking chair in front of the TV. While his father was alive, my father never sat on that chair either.
I think he never knew the answer then, but I'm sure he understood now why he never sat there before.
Would I one day find a similar answer?
There's one 'triple sofa' and one 'double sofa'.
And there's one single sofa. I called it my father's chair. Reason being that in that living room, that was his place. That was his seat in my home.
I've never sat in that chair...
I never knew why I never did. A lot of people have sat in that chair aside from my dad.
Friends, cousins, even my siblings. I don't know about my mum though. I don't remember her ever sitting there.
But I've never sat on that chair. I've never sat on my father's seat....
I wouldn't call it a throne. It's not different from the other sofas.
It was the same level, the same colour, the same design, same cushions, it pretty much resembles all the other chairs there.
But I've never sat on it....
His presence wasn't the reason. I never sat there even when he wasn't at home.
Neither was it his command, his wish or instruction. He never forbade any of us sitting there.
And it was definitely not my mum's instruction either. She never forbade any of us sitting there.
So at the end of the day, I still wonder. Why in thirteen years I lived there, I've never sat at that one spot.
But little did I know, my father and myself were not that different.
Turns out, he never sat on his father's chair either.
His father's rocking chair in front of the TV. While his father was alive, my father never sat on that chair either.
I think he never knew the answer then, but I'm sure he understood now why he never sat there before.
Would I one day find a similar answer?
Only time would tell, why I never sat on my father's chair.
Monday, August 1, 2011
To Pretend or not to Pretend?
I have totally no idea to the question given above.
In the 20 odd years of life, 16 of which being conscious of actually being alive, there are always two main schools of thought.
One is to pretend, to never show one true self in front of others.
And the other is to never pretend, to always show oneself to others.
The thing is, which one is best?
If we want to be true to ourselves, then to never pretend is the best way to go. But what if we need to please the people that matter to us. Our parents for example? Don't we need to pretend in certain situations?
Perhaps the answer lies in the way we pretend or not pretend?
For instance, the question of pretending or not pretending is only the tip of the iceberg. In some ways, the way we do either one is more important than actually doing it.
For example, there are people who pretend in a way that is obviously plastic and insincere. And it is too obvious sometimes. They 'act' and be all polite and stuff. But behind your backs, they do otherwise. In this case, its better to just bare it all and not pretend, coz if they pretend its not in a good way anyway.
Some people pretend very subtly. This is very good, because it does not detract from his or her natural personality so much. They need to do it, in other words. And pretend they did, with plenty of finesse. In this case, perhaps pretending is not such a bad thing after all. I mean, if they don't pretend it does not matter anyway. I call these persons the 'middleman'.
But on the other side of the coin, if we are too truthful, we must be very careful how we do it. Some people are very unpretentious, but the way they do it is by ripping other people's heart out. That ain't good, coz the whole point of being honest is to attract people coming to you, and not drive them away.
So in part and parcel, the answer to the above question lies in how we pretend or not. Bear in mind, how we do it is totally up to us to decide. As long as it is the best approach to be taken, take it and do it right. =)
In the 20 odd years of life, 16 of which being conscious of actually being alive, there are always two main schools of thought.
One is to pretend, to never show one true self in front of others.
And the other is to never pretend, to always show oneself to others.
The thing is, which one is best?
If we want to be true to ourselves, then to never pretend is the best way to go. But what if we need to please the people that matter to us. Our parents for example? Don't we need to pretend in certain situations?
Perhaps the answer lies in the way we pretend or not pretend?
For instance, the question of pretending or not pretending is only the tip of the iceberg. In some ways, the way we do either one is more important than actually doing it.
For example, there are people who pretend in a way that is obviously plastic and insincere. And it is too obvious sometimes. They 'act' and be all polite and stuff. But behind your backs, they do otherwise. In this case, its better to just bare it all and not pretend, coz if they pretend its not in a good way anyway.
Some people pretend very subtly. This is very good, because it does not detract from his or her natural personality so much. They need to do it, in other words. And pretend they did, with plenty of finesse. In this case, perhaps pretending is not such a bad thing after all. I mean, if they don't pretend it does not matter anyway. I call these persons the 'middleman'.
But on the other side of the coin, if we are too truthful, we must be very careful how we do it. Some people are very unpretentious, but the way they do it is by ripping other people's heart out. That ain't good, coz the whole point of being honest is to attract people coming to you, and not drive them away.
So in part and parcel, the answer to the above question lies in how we pretend or not. Bear in mind, how we do it is totally up to us to decide. As long as it is the best approach to be taken, take it and do it right. =)
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