I have totally no idea to the question given above.
In the 20 odd years of life, 16 of which being conscious of actually being alive, there are always two main schools of thought.
One is to pretend, to never show one true self in front of others.
And the other is to never pretend, to always show oneself to others.
The thing is, which one is best?
If we want to be true to ourselves, then to never pretend is the best way to go. But what if we need to please the people that matter to us. Our parents for example? Don't we need to pretend in certain situations?
Perhaps the answer lies in the way we pretend or not pretend?
For instance, the question of pretending or not pretending is only the tip of the iceberg. In some ways, the way we do either one is more important than actually doing it.
For example, there are people who pretend in a way that is obviously plastic and insincere. And it is too obvious sometimes. They 'act' and be all polite and stuff. But behind your backs, they do otherwise. In this case, its better to just bare it all and not pretend, coz if they pretend its not in a good way anyway.
Some people pretend very subtly. This is very good, because it does not detract from his or her natural personality so much. They need to do it, in other words. And pretend they did, with plenty of finesse. In this case, perhaps pretending is not such a bad thing after all. I mean, if they don't pretend it does not matter anyway. I call these persons the 'middleman'.
But on the other side of the coin, if we are too truthful, we must be very careful how we do it. Some people are very unpretentious, but the way they do it is by ripping other people's heart out. That ain't good, coz the whole point of being honest is to attract people coming to you, and not drive them away.
So in part and parcel, the answer to the above question lies in how we pretend or not. Bear in mind, how we do it is totally up to us to decide. As long as it is the best approach to be taken, take it and do it right. =)
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